Am I Being Gaslighted? Free Gaslighting Test

What this test looks at

Gaslighting is often used to describe any disagreement. That makes it harder to recognize the real thing — a repeated pattern in which one person’s account of reality is steadily undermined until they stop trusting it.

This test looks at what happens in conversations, not at intentions. Someone can gaslight without a master plan; the effect on you is what matters here.

• Denial of eventsWhether things you clearly remember are said not to have happened.
• ReframingWhether your reactions are recast as the problem.
• Self-doubtHow much you’ve started to distrust your own perception.
• Isolation of perspectiveWhether outside views are discouraged or discredited.

How to answer

Answer for the last few months rather than one bad day. If a question doesn’t quite fit, pick the answer closest to what usually happens. There are no trick questions and nothing is saved on a server.

What your result can — and can’t — tell you

You’ll see an overall pattern level, a breakdown by dimension, and the specific behaviors that stood out in your answers. It can’t diagnose anyone or tell you what another person thinks or intends. It shows the shape of what you’re experiencing.

This is a structured reflective assessment, informed by relationship research but not a validated clinical instrument. How we build our tests

Questions people ask

What is the difference between gaslighting and disagreement?

In a disagreement, two versions of events can coexist and both people stay open. Gaslighting is a repeated pattern where one person’s account is denied or reframed until they doubt their own perception.

Can gaslighting be unintentional?

Yes. Some people deny or reframe events defensively without a plan. The effect — eroding your trust in your own memory — can be the same, which is why this test focuses on effect rather than intent.