What this test looks at
A situationship is a connection with some of the intimacy of a relationship but without its clarity or commitment. It can suit some people well — and quietly hurt others.
This test doesn’t judge the arrangement. It looks at whether it is clearly defined and whether it’s working equally for both of you.
- Lack of clarityWhether you know what this is.
- No shared futureWhether plans extend beyond the next meeting.
- Separate livesWhether you’re part of each other’s worlds.
- ImbalanceWhether one of you wants noticeably more.
How to answer
Answer for the last few months rather than one bad day. If a question doesn’t quite fit, pick the answer closest to what usually happens. There are no trick questions and nothing is saved on a server.
What your result can — and can’t — tell you
You’ll see an overall pattern level, a breakdown by dimension, and the specific behaviors that stood out in your answers. It can’t diagnose anyone or tell you what another person thinks or intends. It shows the shape of what you’re experiencing.
This is a structured reflective assessment, informed by relationship research but not a validated clinical instrument. How we build our tests
Questions people ask
- What is a situationship?
- A situationship is a romantic or sexual connection without a clear definition or commitment — more than friendship, less defined than a relationship.
- How do I know if it’s a situationship?
- Common signs include avoiding labels, few plans beyond the near future, not meeting each other’s friends, and one person wanting noticeably more than the other.
Is this a situationship?
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