Do I Have Anxious Attachment? Free Anxious Attachment Test

What this test looks at

Attachment research describes anxiety in relationships as a sensitivity to signs of rejection, paired with a strong need for closeness and reassurance. Almost everyone has some; for some people it runs the show.

This is a reflective assessment inspired by that research, not a validated attachment measure. It helps you see which parts of the pattern are loudest for you.

• Reassurance-seekingHow much closeness needs to be confirmed.
• Fear of abandonmentExpecting to be left or replaced.
• HypervigilanceScanning for signs something is wrong.
• Self-silencingShrinking your needs to keep someone close.

How to answer

Answer for the last few months rather than one bad day. If a question doesn’t quite fit, pick the answer closest to what usually happens. There are no trick questions and nothing is saved on a server.

What your result can — and can’t — tell you

You’ll see an overall pattern level, a breakdown by dimension, and the specific behaviors that stood out in your answers. It reflects how you see your own behavior, which is useful but never the whole picture.

This is a structured reflective assessment, informed by relationship research but not a validated clinical instrument. How we build our tests

Questions people ask

What is anxious attachment?

Anxious attachment describes a pattern of heightened sensitivity to rejection, strong need for closeness and reliance on reassurance to feel secure in a relationship.

Can anxious attachment change?

Yes. Research suggests attachment patterns can shift over time, particularly through consistent relationships, self-awareness and therapy.