Is My Relationship Toxic? Free Toxic Relationship Test

What this test looks at

“Toxic” gets used for everything from a bad week to genuine harm. The difference usually isn’t whether you fight, but how: whether there’s contempt, whether you repair, and whether you feel smaller over time.

This test looks at the dynamic between you — not just one person’s behavior — because many toxic patterns are built by two people reacting to each other.

• ContemptMockery, eye-rolling, disgust during conflict.
• RepairWhether you can come back together after a fight.
• RespectWhether needs and limits are taken seriously.
• StabilityWhether calm is the norm or the exception.
• Sense of selfHow you feel about yourself inside the relationship.

How to answer

Answer for the last few months rather than one bad day. If a question doesn’t quite fit, pick the answer closest to what usually happens. There are no trick questions and nothing is saved on a server.

What your result can — and can’t — tell you

You’ll see an overall pattern level, a breakdown by dimension, and the specific behaviors that stood out in your answers. It can’t diagnose anyone or tell you what another person thinks or intends. It shows the shape of what you’re experiencing.

This is a structured reflective assessment, informed by relationship research but not a validated clinical instrument. How we build our tests

Questions people ask

What is the difference between a toxic relationship and normal conflict?

Normal conflict is about an issue and ends in some form of repair. Toxic conflict attacks the person, repeats without resolution and leaves at least one partner feeling smaller over time.

Can a toxic relationship become healthy?

Sometimes — especially when the main problems are poor repair or communication habits and both people are willing to change. Contempt, control and fear are much harder to repair and deserve careful attention.